It’s Lent, Again

It’s Lent, Again

Lory Beth Huffman

Senior Pastor

It’s hard for me to believe that it is Lent already. You know, the 40 days leading up to Easter. I always appreciate that the Church has a rhythm to it. The big things that happen in the church year always have a time of preparation. Advent leads up to Christmas. Lent to Easter. The Easter Session prepares us for Pentecost. Warm up weeks that let us prepare for what it is we need to pay attention to.I don’t know if people in the first couple of centuries needed it as badly as we do today. But in culture where life speeds by and we are slaves to our calendars and always looking to what comes next – setting aside 6 weeks of preparation for Easter is much needed spiritually speaking. Otherwise, Easter would come and go like any other Sunday in the year. We wouldn’t even see it coming and if it wasn’t a Sunday we happened to attend church, we might not even know we missed it.It’s hard for me to believe that it is Lent already. You know, the 40 days leading up to Easter. I always appreciate that the Church has a rhythm to it. The big things that happen in the church year always have a time of preparation. Advent leads up to Christmas. Lent to Easter. The Easter Session prepares us for Pentecost. Warm up weeks that let us prepare for what it is we need to pay attention to. I don’t know if people in the first couple of centuries needed it as badly as we do today. But in culture where life speeds by and we are slaves to our calendars and always looking to what comes next – setting aside 6 weeks of preparation for Easter is much needed spiritually speaking.Otherwise, Easter would come and go like any other Sunday in the year. We wouldn’t even see it coming and if it wasn’t a Sunday we happened to attend church, we might not even know we missed it.

So what are you going to do in order to mark this time as different? People do a lot of things. Some folks give up something for Lent in order to imitate the experience of Jesus suffering and giving up his life for us. It’s symbolic, of course. Because there is nothing we could possibly give up that would come close to the sacrifice of Jesus – not even my Coke Zero each night. It may be a specific food but it may be a treat or habit that we know we would miss if we went without for 6 weeks. (It’s not really fair of me to give up coffee for Lent when I don’t even drink it to begin with!). But it also may be a negative behavior like gossip or binge watching TV that we give up.

Some folks choose to fast as a way to mark Lent as a holy time. Fasting is an ancient practice of voluntarily going without a meal or two in order to feel hunger pains and want and instead give more time and space for Jesus in our lives. Some people even collect an offering of what they would have spent on food and give to a ministry that supports the poor. Fasting is designed to be a form of prayer that allows us to experience a disciplined way of forgoing something that brings us pleasure and comfort and that we actually need in order to bring a more heightened sense of God in our lives. It’s a powerful experience that can bring clarity and deep alignment with God. Please remember to always drink water if you choose to fast food.

Other people choose to take on something in order to honor the season of Lent. It might be a special weekly volunteer opportunity. It might be exercise for better self care. It might be a prayer practice. Like taking time to take a slow walk through the woods each week. A couple of years ago I began to set aside special prayer time on my Sabbath day- Friday- where I would color a Labyrinth pattern or Celtic Knot and use that time to just be quiet and listen to God. For someone like me who likes to be doing something all the time, it has taken several years to learn how to quiet myself and set aside all other distractions and just color and listen. But I have found it to be good for my soul. It’s amazing what I can hear when I stop to listen to God’s quiet voice in my life. And it’s equally amazing how fast after Lent ends that the space gets filled up with the noise of life.

As our church takes a special emphasis and prays for each of our members and friends to become transformed disciples, I hope this Lent you will think about taking on some kind of practice that will set these next 6 weeks aside as special. That you will give some extra time to your relationship with Jesus. I’d love to hear what you are doing this year- respond in the blog or facebook comments.

I’ll start. I’ve had a rough health year physically so I’m going to be ambitious and do three things for my wellbeing. I’m going to do my weekly Labyrinth coloring prayer time. I’m going to make sure I am exercising 4 times a week. And I will be giving up fried foods and sugar. (Yes, I am keeping my Coke Zero- but trust me- this trio of choices will be quite the challenge). Normally I would choose only one but I am feeling a need to be very intentional with this gift of preparation time.

Can’t wait to hear what God is nudging you to give up or take on this year. Whatever it is, may it draw you ever closer to Jesus. May it help Jesus be ever more in the forefront of your life and not set aside for one day of the week or when its convenient. I’m pretty sure the cross was ever so not convenient for Jesus. Making a sacrifice of desire or time is the least I can do. What about you?

Grace and Peace,

Lory Beth

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The Many Faces of Love

The Many Faces of Love

Lory Beth Huffman

Senior Pastor

Happy Valentine’s Day! I realize for some this is a day of great joy. For others it brings sadness and heartbreak. And for others, it’s just another day. For those of us who have been married 20+ years it is far too tempting to fall into that last category. I’m thankful for my husband and the way that I can look at him across a room of people and my insides feel like they are smiling. When he kisses me on the forehead, it reminds me of our second date when he kissed me goodbye in that same way and I was smitten.

But today I want to reflect on all of the many faces of love that we can see in the relationships around us. I watched this interesting show on Amazon Prime called Modern Love that is based on the New York Times popular newspaper column by the same name. It consists of an anthology of episodes based on a variety of expressions of love in all of its complicated and confusing possibilities. For instance the first episode is about the special relationship between the big city doormen and the young single woman far from family that live in their buildings. Often these older doormen take special care of the young ladies, serving as father figures. A sweet love and care for others that has nothing to do with sexual attraction.

One episode explores the challenge of dealing with being bi-polar and trying to date. You never know who is going to show up at the door and the challenge of finding someone that can care for and love someone in that difficult place. A friendship with a co-worker ends up being the love that is needed to seek the stabilizing help for this person. By the way, these episodes are based on columns which are all based on actual people’s stories.

There is the challenge of understanding love in a marriage under stress where two people have drifted apart. An there’s the love that happens in the senior years between Septa and Octogenarians. You get the point. Some of the expressions of love the columnist wrote about are uncomfortable and complicated like the episode about the young woman who sees the older man in her work place as a father figure that she never had in her own life. While the English language only has one word for love, there are 8 words for love in the Greek language. Modern Love reminded me of these various expressions.

Eros (romantic, passionate love)

The first kind of love is Eros, named after the Greek God of fertility. Eros is passion, lust and pleasure. The ancient Greeks considered Eros to be dangerous and frightening as it involves a “loss of control” through the primal impulse to procreate. Eros is an intense form of love that arouses romantic and sexual feelings.

Philia (affectionate love)

The second type of love is Philia, or friendship. Plato felt that physical attraction was not a necessary part of love, hence the use of the word platonic to mean, “without physical attraction.”

Agape (selfless, universal love)

The third is Agape, selfless universal love, such as the love for strangers, nature, or God. This love is unconditional, bigger than ourselves, a boundless compassion and an infinite empathy that you extended to everyone, whether they are family members or distant strangers.

Storge (familiar love)

Storge is a natural form of affection experienced between family members. This protective, kinship-based love is common between parents and their children, and children for their parents. Storge can also describe a sense of patriotism toward a country or allegiance to the same team.

Mania (obsessive love)

When love turns to obsession, it becomes mania. Stalking behaviors, co-dependency, extreme jealousy, and violence are all symptoms of Mania.

Ludus (playful love)

The Ancient Greeks thought of ludus as a playful form of love. It describes the situation of having a crush and acting on it, or the affection between young lovers.

Pragma (enduring love)

Pragma is a love built on commitment, understanding and long-term best interests. It is a love that has aged, matured and about making compromises to help the relationship work over time, also showing patience and tolerance.

Philautia (self love)

The Greeks understood that in order to care for others, we must first learn to care for ourselves. As Aristotle said, “All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man’s feelings for himself.”
-Greek City Times

I guess today on Valentine’s Day I am struck by how often we talk about loving others in the life of the Christian Church and how on Valentine’s Day we should be celebrating more than just our romantic, “eros” loving relationships. My hunch is that maybe some of our non-romantic loving relationships are what help sustain us most during the difficult times of life. The love we have for our family and for our friends are necessary forms of support day in and day out. Of course there is the Love that God showers upon us filled with grace and blessing. The mature love of a marriage that has survived the decades can teach us more about how God loves us day in and day out than any Romantic Comedy or grand gesture of passion or romance.

Take a moment today and tell someone that you are not in a romantic relationship with that you love them. Recognize the many faceted forms of love in your own life. And then know that those are examples of the gift God has given you in your life and what God longs for you to nurture and sustain. Because God knows how necessary this gift of love is for us to thrive as children of God.

Hey brothers and sisters in Christ – I love you.

Grace and Peace,

Lory Beth

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God Is Moving at Appalachian Wesley Foundation


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College presents many new challenges that can seem as large and looming as an 8:00 a.m. lecture hall. Appalachian Wesley Foundation is helping students center themselves through God’s mercies as they navigate college life.

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Juston Smith, Appalachian Wesley Foundation Campus Pastor

“If you ask any pastor as they begin a new season in a new place what they hope to accomplish, they will tell you they want to figure out how to get people involved,” said Juston Smith, the new Campus Pastor at Appalachian Wesley Foundation. “What I am discovering here at App Wesley is that these students are really excited to be involved. The energy found in this ministry is powerful.”

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Juston recently stepped into the Campus Pastor role, which previously had been filled since 2005 by our friend, Brad Farrington. Juston, who has served in pastoral and worship leader roles in several North Carolina congregations, is directing his passion into higher education as he carries out the mission to “make disciples of Jesus Christ for the transformation of the world through campus ministry.” Appalachian Wesley Foundation welcomes students from Appalachian State University and Caldwell Community College – Watauga Campus.

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“People from local churches have asked how they can support all that is happening here,” said Juston. “I want to network with churches from around the state so that freshman students know how to find us after they leave home. I want for graduating students from App Wesley to know how to plug in to church life and ministry after they complete their time on campus.”

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“I think people from the Boone community would be moved to witness the authentic worship happening here at App Wesley,” said Juston. “These students are following God, and it is inspiring.”

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Originally from Stanley, N.C., Juston earned his bachelor’s degree from Appalachian State University in Electronic Media/Broadcasting. Following graduation, he worked as a video editor with Charlotte’s WBTV and in music ministry, as well as youth ministry. After splitting his work between a newsroom and church, he made a decision to focus full-time on ministry. Juston earned a master of divinity degree from Hood Theological Seminary and is an ordained elder with the United Methodist Church.

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In his spare time, Juston remains active through swimming and fitness. He enjoys writing, web design, and plays the piano and organ.

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Please help us welcome Juston to the Boone community as he provides spiritual leadership to the students of Appalachian Wesley Foundation.

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For more information, go to booneumc.org/lets-connect/college.

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